Missing Los Angeles – By J. Rafati

By Guest Blogger: JASMINE RAFATI — Iran (read bio)

I always thought of myself as the citizen of the world. I could easily move to a new place and adapt. It was always hard at first but it would change for the better pretty fast.

As some of you may know, I recently moved to Paris, temporarily. I feel as I am getting older, it is harder for me to adapt to a new place; even though, I have lived here before. I long for my family, friends, and familiar faces. I have much missed the wonderful city of Los Angeles.

I miss my place of peace, Los Angeles County Museum, where I forget all my troubles. I miss my beautiful family who is the rock in my life. And of course I miss my beautiful friends without whom my life would be dull.

My sister, who is my best friend and critic, is literally my second half who listens to me talk about everything and everyone only to offer good advice.

To my Mr. T, whom life is hell with and without; I miss drinking pomegranate tea with you in the afternoon. Most of all I miss drinking that great glass of red wine you bring to meet me at the door.

You won’t believe it to be possible but I even miss the 405 freeway with all its traffic.  My friends and family know that I hate driving. In fact, I always joke that as soon as I get really rich, the first thing I would do is get a driver. However, I miss my car and I miss having the control to go anywhere, anytime I want to. My feet are dead from walking so much and I haven’t been here long.

I miss the movie nights with my friends and I definitely miss and appreciate all the places open on Sundays. Let me tell you, being stranded in a city where you don’t have anyone, have no cell phone, and all the stores closed, is no fun. I travel to Europe quite often and I have no idea why I chose to fly in on a Sunday.  Please don’t make my mistake, always fly in to Europe on the weekdays.

Another thing that I miss about Los Angeles, is the size of things. Stop it….., I am talking about apartments.  Well I have been fortunate to stay with people here who have nice big places; however, what I can afford is merely bigger than a shoe box.  I am used to a nice size bedroom, big living room, and a nice patio. Here I can’t open the apartment door if my bathroom door is open. Be aware when you rent apartments on line because the actual place rarely is as good as the place presented online. In my case, the pictures were a heaven compare to the hell I entered to when I got here.

What I love about Paris is all the cute little coffee shops where you can have coffee while enjoying good weather. I noticed here that people at any age married and unmarried hold hands a lot more often than I have seen in California. It is wonderful to see couples passing by holding hands.  The amount of love I have experienced with my friends in Los Angeles who I should mention are from all around the world, I have never felt anywhere else in the world.  I think it is wonderful if we try to get in this habit of expressing our love by holding hands all the time.  Men please don’t hate me right now.

I have to say that Americans in general have a misconception regarding the French. Sure there are some who are mean, but so there are some people in Los Angeles who are just vicious.  When I arrived in Paris, I had a huge problem with my apartment, I called a friend of a friend whom I had never had the pleasure of meeting. He picked me up and took me into his home. He was an awesome host. He tried to make me feel at home. Well, it was also a great thing that he was deliciously handsome, witty, had a beautiful voice.

My very good friend’s mom who I have never met either, returned my call back right away and offered her place to me to stay on the weekend. She also helped me a lot with my apartment situation. These people are wonderful, sweet, and helpful. I want to mention these examples to make sure everyone knows there are some splendid people in France.

The landlord of my first apartment however, is not one of them. He is mischievous and a liar.  He makes appointments that he is really late too and he lies about absolutely everything. I think he doesn’t like Americans. If he knew I was Iranian-American, he would probably put me in the street.

As the people who know me know, I am a person who shows affection by hugging, kissing, or just a simple touch. Baaaaaaaaad idea in France. I got into a lot of trouble with that one.  For me a little kiss on the cheek to say thank you or touch on the hair, or tapping the shoulder is just part of friendly thank you or merely a flirtation. Suffice to say I was really misunderstood. I am keeping my hands to myself from now on.

I’d like to also mention that the French are very appreciative when you do speak their language or you at least try to. I am saying that because I feel my experiences may be a bit different because I speak French or at least try to. I love how the French language sounds. I love hearing it and speaking it.

And of course as many of you know, this city is truly beautiful. Since I work here, I haven’t had a chance to revisit the places as much as I want to, but the architecture, the stone covered grounds, and the museums are breathtaking.

Being an Iranian living in America, I forget the language when I leave the country. Once I get back to U.S., my English will sound very funny and French words would come to mind faster sometimes.  But God bless California, the place that has my heart no matter where I live in the world.

With all my love from Paris.

20 Responses to “Missing Los Angeles – By J. Rafati”

  1. Anonymous says:

    You are in Paris at the best time of year. With your beauty, you should have not a problem getting male companionship. Enjoy it, mon ami. Los Angeles will be waiting for you with open arms when you return.

    • Jasmine says:

      Dear reader,
      Paris and its people have been wonderful to me. I am enjoying every minute of my time here.
      Thanks for your warm email. Even though I don’t know who you are, I was truly delighted by your message. It did put a smile on my face.
      So thank you for reading my blog and thank you for your response specially the part about beauty. I think you should have definitely elaborated on that part a bit more. But that is just my opinion :)

    • Jasmine says:

      I just thought about something that I had forgotten to mention in my response. I am looking for true love, great companion and a best friend all in one. Companionship is just a part of what I want. May be I have traveled this far to meet the one I am looking for.

  2. Pilates Lady says:

    Los Angeles misses you! I miss you!!!!!

    Paris is lucky to have you!!!!!!!!!!!

    Who knew you could miss traffic on the 405? haha I felt the same when I moved to New York for 5 months. It is a fabulous city to visit, but it’s hard to leave what you know and love and those you love, even if it is only temporarily.

    I hope to make it to you before you return and can’t wait to see you.

    • Jasmine says:

      Hi my wonderful Pilates Lady

      I miss you sooooo much too. Paris is wonderful. I am meeting wonderful people and everyone at work is very sweet. But i surely do miss our time together.

      hope to see you soon in Paris

  3. Julia says:

    What an adventure you are having! You are going to wake up one morning and realize you are suddenly having the time of your life. The sun will shine brighter, the cafe will taste better and your new friends will all want to treat you to a glass of wine. It is amazing, no matter how wonderful a place you are in it is never as enjoyable without people you love. We miss you too!

    • Jasmine says:

      Hi Julia

      I am having a grand time. Paris is wonderful but so is the countryside outside Paris. I met great people here who have been extremely nice and welcoming.

      cant wait to see you guys

  4. Jasmine says:

    I just thought about something that I had forgotten to mention in my response. I am looking for true love, great companion and a best friend all in one. Companionship is just a part of what I want. May be I have traveled this far to meet the one I am looking for.

  5. Pari says:

    Jasmine jan,

    I enjoyed reading your blog, I laughed a lot and I felt I miss you so much!
    Anyways, enjoy your time in Paris! I miss France, Paris, Besancon and my French friends a lot! you are lucky to be there so enjoy it and if you could enjoy instead of me too , please do so espeacially when you walk in Paris streets, or when go to cafe, you eat French cheese or drink red wine!:)))


    • jasmine says:

      I will think of you and i even will have an extra glass of wine just for you


    • ZC says:

      Hello Jasmine,

      We all miss you tremendously. I wish the men in Los Angeles would hold your hand! You are so optimistic about California. I was in China for two weeks and I did not miss LA at all! I am also looking for companionship and I pray that we both find “Mr. Right” soon. I am thrilled to know that you are enjoying yourself, and I can’t wait for you to reurn to LA! I still want to visit you before you leave!

      Bye Love,


      • jasmine says:

        Darling ZC

        I am an optimistic person in nature as you would know by now. I do believe in men in California and people in California in general. There are many good people out there

  6. kaz says:

    OMG! I MISS YOU!!!!

    Have you heard of this person? hope you can join his dinner?

    …”If you are lucky enough to have lived in Paris as a young man, then wherever you go for the rest of your life it stays with you, for Paris is a moveable feast. ”
    Ernest Hemingway

    • jasmine says:

      Hi Kaz

      I miss everyone in California too
      How do I get on his Sunday list? It sounds amazing and I would love to participate

  7. Sandra Lord: Co-Founder of this Blog says:

    Hey Jasmine, I am glad you are enjoying Paris. We miss you out here and can’t wait for you to get back to LA.

    Now, who is this Mr. ‘T’ whom “life is hell with and without,” hmm? :-).

    Also, what do you mean when you say “As the people who know me know, I am a person who shows affection by hugging, kissing, or just a simple touch. Baaaaaaaaad idea in France. I got into a lot of trouble with that one?” You DIDN’T TELL US what trouble you got into and that statement left us hanging. So, you HAVE to elaborate. :-)

    I enjoyed reading your article, you were a little naughty and playful in some parts and it was fun to read. It would be nice to keep us updated on this blog until you get back. For example, tell us what you’re up to and the most exciting thing you’ve done since you’ve been in Paris.

    • jasmine says:

      hello Sandra

      I was thinking about writing on my experiences in Paris. I will give you an update very soon, may be a short blog about all the troubles I got myself into. :)

  8. Laurence says:

    Jasmine, Jasmine !

    Toutes tes aventures à Paris nous font tellement rire : le banquier, tes voyages et malheureusement La Poste… Ne change rien !

    Passe une très bonne année à Paris riche en émotions pour être notre ambassadrice à L.A.

    p.s.: Ne touche plus les cheveux des inconnus !

    • Jasmine says:

      Hi everyone
      i am going to translate Laurence’s comment:

      All your adventures in Paris, make us laugh so much: the banker, your travels and unfortunately the sotry with the Post office… Do not change a thing!

      Have a very good year in Paris full of emotions/experiences to be our representative in LA

      P.S.: Do not touch the hair of the strangers!

    • Jasmine says:

      Chère Laurence

      C’est vrai que j’ai beaucoup d’histoires à raconter de mes expériences à Paris. Mes meilleures histoires à raconter mes amis et ma famille quand je retourne chez moi seront rencontrer les gens très sympathique et gentille comme toi.

  9. Thomas C. says:

    I love travel and I’m jealous that you get to do what I have always wanted to do. I would love to live in France and experience fine cuisine and culture for at least a year. I enjoyed reading about your new adventure. Congratulations.

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